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This morning, as I ate my cereal and read over by RSS feeds, I came across a post from Merlin Mann that made me think. Merlin used to be considered (I think he still is) a Mac productivity guru. But a year ago, he had a baby and it seems that his writing has become more “life-focused”. Meaning that rather than just talk about GTD, he writes more about the productivity of life.

To that end, his latest post on 43 Folders, talks about “re-potting” and the effect on him. That got me thinking about the “re-potting” times in my life and what has come out of it.

– Divorce –
When a marriage has failed, it’s a hard time. The questions of what, how and could’ve, should’ve consume you. For some people, it’s the darkest time of their lives and shapes every relationship they have from that point on. Some never truly get over it and costs them the chance to find happiness. Had I not gotten divorced, I would never had the opportunity to find the love of my life, Jennifer. Which in turn would not have given me Truce. Short of “thanking” my ex-wife, let’s just say it worked out better for me.

– Corporate Changes –
One day, I got a memo that outlined the new pay/fee structure for my company. Needless to say, it didn’t work in the favor of me or my clients. Rather than begrudgingly just “take it”, I decided that it was time to move on. We were spending big bucks on therapy for Truce and was probably not the best time to “make a move.” However, three years later, I have my own business and could not be happier with that decision.

– Medical –
Having a child with autism is not on the top of most parents “wish list”, it’s the hand our family has been dealt. Rather than let it destroy our marriage (80% of marriages that have a child with autism end in divorce), it brought Jennifer and I closer. We have become advocates for the cause and have helped others going through the struggle.

I could probably go on, but you get the idea. So, take a look at you life, see what’s bad, and understand that good can (and probably will) come out of it. 10-years ago, I was single, working for Edward Jones, living in Hoopeston and wondering what was next. My parents always said, “Good things happen to those that wait.” Smile, because that’s true.